Regardless of the amount of success that we achieve in life, there always comes a time when we have to face challenges, critics, and negativity. We have no control over what comes our way. However, we can control how we choose to react. When it comes to negativity, knowing how to properly handle negative personalities will not only build your overall character, but also propel you to another level of expertise in relationship management. Thanks to success coach and entrepreneur Ryan James Lock, here are 4 ways to deal with negative people.
1. It really isn’t about you
The fact that someone took the time to write or even say negative and critical things about you says much more about them and their way of thinking than it does about you and yours.
We are all under the effect of our own thinking, meaning, the way we think creates the circumstances in our lives. When you realize this, it takes the sting out.
2. Don’t feed the trolls
It can be SO tempting to argue back, defend yourself or even tell those people where to go, but don’t. It really wont help and it’ll probably just give them what they want from you, which is a reaction. If you need to vent, write down your response on a piece or paper or type it on your laptop and then delete it.
3. Focus on the good
I always say to my clients, focus on the people that you do want to help and serve with your work. They are the important ones. The people who react negatively or want to put you down aren’t even your ideal clients or friends so it really isn’t worth any of your precious time or energy to focus on people who aren’t even right for you.
4. Use it to spur you on
Don’t ask me why but it seems like every time I get to the next level in my life or work, there seems to be some sort of backlash from the trolls. My advice here would be to do whatever you need to do to process it and move on and then take it as a sign that you are making progress or about to have a breakthrough and keep going!